How To Create A Blueprint For Joy

Have you ever taken a moment to reflect on what genuinely makes you happy? I’m not talking about fleeting pleasures like a slice of pizza or a fresh pair of sneakers, but the profound, lasting joy that fills your heart.

Exploring True Desires

This question might seem deceptively simple, yet so many of us rarely take the time to explore what we truly desire.

Why does this happen? Perhaps it’s because, at the core, discovering our genuine desires requires a deep understanding of who we are. For many, that’s where the journey comes to a halt. But if you’re reading this, it means you’re inquisitive, open to growth, and eager for more. Well, you’re in for a treat because I’ve crafted this for you.

The Subconscious Influence

Did you know that around the age of 35, approximately 95% of our thoughts are already programmed? That’s right—95%! It means that a substantial portion of what we do each day is executed unconsciously. It’s astonishing when you realize that, despite feeling like your analytical mind is working tirelessly, it only contributes to about 5% of your actions. But what about the remaining 95%?

From the day you were born until around six years old, you absorbed information indiscriminately. You were like a sponge, soaking up every experience and piece of knowledge without the ability to analyze it. Between six and nine years old, you started developing your analytical brain—the part that helps you make decisions and navigate life.

Your unconscious mind controls a significant part of your actions, and it operates primarily based on two simple questions:

1. Does this bring me pleasure?
2. Does this cause me pain?

If something brings you pleasure, you’ll repeat it. If something causes you pain, you’ll avoid it. It’s quite logical, isn’t it? These two questions help you build unique ‘pleasure patterns’ and ‘pain patterns,’ which are different for everyone.

You might have a fabulous life that you enjoy every day. Still, I don’t think I’ve ever met anyone who wouldn’t want to change something about their life to make it even better. You’re likely in that category, and so am I. I’m perpetually dedicated to improving and optimizing my life because, like you, I’m a Happiness Junkie!

Reprogramming the Mind

Now, here’s the exciting part: even if you’re already programmed (and we all are to some extent), it doesn’t mean you can’t reprogram yourself. However, to begin this transformation, you need to understand how to do it and which ‘files’ (read: thoughts) to replace in your ‘database’ (read: mind).

To initiate this process, start by discovering what brings you joy. Ready to dive in? Let’s go!

1. Create Your Daily Blueprint: Grab a notebook, your journal, or open a blank document. Write down your daily routine, step by step. Begin with that very first morning moment, and document your entire day, including everything from your morning routine to your work, meals, and evening activities.
2. Rate Your Emotions: Now, for each of these activities, assign a score based on the happiness or joy it brings you. Close your eyes, focus on the feeling in your body, and rank each action on a scale from 1 (minimal joy) to 10 (maximum joy).
3. Pure Self-Awareness, No Pressure: Keep in mind, this exercise is about self-discovery, not immediate change. You don’t need solutions just yet. Instead, this is your opportunity to become acutely aware of your feelings and emotional responses to each activity.

Journey to Self-Discovery

Through this process, you’ll gain profound insight into how your daily life measures up on the happiness scale. This isn’t about self-judgment; it’s a journey to self-knowledge. Every moment that elicits positive feelings provides a clue to your authentic happiness.

So, how does your daily life stack up on the joy meter? I’m eager to hear about your insights. Share your experiences with me by tagging @caroliene_alexandra on Instagram, and together, we can embark on a journey filled with joy and self-discovery!